Whose Business Is This Anyway?: Or Why Do I Want to Have a “Spiritual Business?”

Once in awhile someone tells me how they’re unhappy with their present job and they want to pursue work that is more spiritual so I usually offer some suggestions gleaned from my own experience in an attempt to be helpful. One of the main pieces of advice I offer is that if it is a calling from Spirit, then the path will open up toward a defined mission. Once you’ve asked your spirit guides for help, then all you need to do is get your ego out of the way and observe whatever signs, omens, or information show up for you once you’ve asked this question.

Sometimes when we fantasize about a career as a spiritual teacher or healer, the fantasy starts to dominate such that the various ways that Spirit communicates become shrouded in egoic distortions and misperceptions. It’s then we miss the signs or misinterpret them, whether they’re those that come with a whisper or those that come with a bang.

So learning to pay close attention to Spirit’s guidance, whatever form this takes, and continuing to look for those clues that tell you you’re on the right path will give you a better idea of how to bring your spirituality into this world. In distinguishing the voice of Spirit from any version of the ego’s voice, whether arrogance or false humility—both voices of the ego—you may discover that your path is in indeed one of a spiritual teacher or healer. Or you may discover that your path is not.

If it becomes clear that being a spiritual teacher or healer with business cards, brochures, and websites that advertise you as such is not your path, the challenge then is to bring your spirituality into as much of your life as possible, no matter what type of work you’re doing. And you might as well have fun doing so. Of course, this is true in other areas of your life as well.

But let’s assume that you hear the call to more directly do spiritual teaching or healing, whether part time or full time, and even whether or not it pays the bills. Aside from some of the other elements applicable to any business, such as networking, marketing, etc., here are some important principles by which to guide your professional spiritual practice. By following these to the best of your ability, you can be assured that your spiritual teaching and/or healing business is truly spiritual.

Co-creation

You’re always co-creating, whether you’re aware of it or not. The art is to be conscious of this and to synchronize your will with the Will of Spirit. Okay, so how do you do this?

One of the best ways to assure that you’re actions are congruent with your spiritual values is to be clear on your intention prior to meeting with clients or teaching a class or workshop. Your intention has to do with how you want to show up, what you want the outcome to be, or anything relevant to the task at hand.

My sister Susan Clark, Executive Coach in charge of Leadership Development for Fairview Health Services, described how she states her intention prior to going to work each day and especially, prior to any meetings. She says, “I ask the Love and Light of all Creation to come into me, to fill me and bless me, touch and light all the dark spots. Heal me and pass through me so that all with whom I come in contact may see and feel and know that Love.”

She went on to say, “Once you set that intention of having the Love and Light of all Creation come into you, you become a conduit for the wisdom of Creation communicating through you and with you. You still have all your experience, wisdom, knowledge, etc., but once you set your intention in this way, it becomes a co-creation.”

“The other thing is to get your ego out of the way. If you goof up you goof up. No pressure to be perfect, so remembering this allows you to stay in the moment.”

Collaboration

This is another key to succeeding in this type of business (or most businesses for that matter). Collaborating with others means joining in an activity to produce or create something. It’s a given that in this sort of business you’re collaborating with spirit; it’s also necessary to see any work that you’re doing as a collaboration.

I’ve applied this way of thinking to my private consultations with clients where I do spirit animal readings and shamanic healing. I see these as a collaborative effort, first with Spirit in the form of my spirit guides, and secondly, with the individual with whom I’m working. I’m clear on my intention prior to the meeting, which is to bring all of my experience and knowledge to serve this individual and meet their needs to the best of my ability.

Once we’ve engaged in conversation and the relationship is established, we both enter into a “zone” where Spirit is consciously present. It’s actually a mild form of trance, one where the brain waves have slowed to allow greater access to input from our spirit guides. I always encourage my clients to pay close attention to their own intuition and inner promptings during the session and tell me whatever comes up. During the shamanic healing sessions, my client’s receptivity to the work is part of the healing process, no matter the form.

When I’m teaching workshops there’s collaboration between the audience and myself. It’s a relationship to a group, one where the audience gives clues as to whether as the speaker I’m on target or not. A formula that I was given years ago describes what can happen in this relationships and how a speaker can determine when he’s connecting with the audience.

If the audience is: then the speaker:

Restless Not clear

Spacey Not grounded

Angry Has a hidden agenda

These simple guidelines will let you as a speaker/teacher know from your attunement to the response of the audience when you’re off track. When you’re on track your audience, or at least most of your audience, will be right there with you, engaged and involved, in this collaboration between speaker and the group.

Commitment

The first commitment is to be of service. When I’m doing power animal readings, healings, or teaching, I continuously remind myself that this is at the top of my list for intentions. My prayer typically goes something like this: “Thank you (spirit guides) for supporting me in providing the best possible service for this person (or group). Thank you for your blessings and guidance with any readings or healings that take place.”

I was playing some songs with a friend of mine, both of us playing guitar and singing. At one point she commented how much she admired Joe Walsh’s guitar style and playing. My friend was saying how when Walsh plays a lead, he commits to every note. I always thought that was an interesting way to describe it, because his playing is very clear and precise.

Although there are others, another model of commitment is the Scottish Medium, Gordon Smith. I’ve had the opportunity to see him do his thing and I’m in awe of how he comes off so clear and committed when he does readings from deceased loved ones. He tells the person in the audience to not give him any information prior to the reading and does not look for verification from the individual. Even when the person isn’t sure about what he’s conveying, he would say something like, “You’ll know what I’m talking about later on.” And he’s sat in Spiritualist circles for a number of years, so he’s honed his natural gifts, and is amazingly accurate.

Confident. That’s how you come off when you commit in this way. As in a saying I heard some years ago, “If you’re going to sit, sit. If you’re going to stand, stand. But don’t stay in the in between.

So commitment is first to being of service, and from there it’s to delivering that service with the confidence and clarity, similar to Joe Walsh or Gordon Smith.

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It is risky starting out in a spiritual business. Most wisdom says it takes two years to really establish yourself. It’s a cliché in Hollywood that there are a lot of actors waiting tables at restaurants waiting for their big break. Some make it and some don’t. For spiritual teaching and healing, fortunately it doesn’t have to be a full time job, but starting out slow, a few hours a week, is the first step to getting yourself established.

As a very wise mentor told me years ago when I was starting my private psychotherapy practice, “Just do good work and the word will spread.”

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Father's Day 2009

FATHER'S DAY 2009

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Our Kinship With Animals

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Animal Spirit Guides and Scuba Diving

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

(additional contributions by Elephant, Beaver and Whale)

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If You Talk with the Animals...

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.


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Jasper the Hawk Pays a Visit

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.


The day before Christmas Doreen and I were saying our morning prayers, a sacred ritual we do every morning before we get up and get going into the day, when I caught the flutter of wings out of the corner of my eye and watched as all of the birds that had been feeding outside our bedroom window scattered. It’s not unusual to see doves and a smattering of other birds on our deck and in the tree just outside, as…
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A Sunset, A Whisper, AND A SHOUT

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.


I had just come home running some errands that included a trip to the gym for a short but very enlivening workout, had put away the groceries, threw the day’s mail on the usual spot amidst the organized clutter that covered my desk, and sat down, prepared to do some work on the computer when my friend Chris appeared. Chris is a brother by a different set of parents, and I welcomed him. He also is our general contractor, supervising and doing much of the…
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Animal Spirit Guides and Imagination

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.


How many times have you heard, “Oh, it's just your imagination!” implying that it's merely some delusional artifice that holds no bearing on reality, reserved for the likes of children, artists, or writers of fiction? Useful in some instances, but limited. There's even a song by The Temptations called, “Just My Imagination,” where a guy sings about his dream girl, the punch line being that he realizes he can never really have her because “it's just (his) imagination running away with (him).”

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Power Animals: Connecting with Your Animal Spirit Guide

What Are Power Animals?


Power animals are spirit guides in animal form, valuable allies who can help you navigate through life's challenges and transitions. Perceptive and trustworthy oracles, you can turn to them for advice and counsel on any questions or concerns. They're exceptional teachers who'll help you learn about both the spirit world and the natural world. Working with them on a regular basis will enhance your personal life and expand your spiritual capacities immensely.

Power animals…

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Men, Spirituality, and Power Animals

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D


Men can’t help but be spiritual. The fact of being alive is a spiritual experience, yet many have lost their conscious awareness of this fundamental truth. Gradually over the past several centuries, the rational, logical mind has usurped the creative wisdom of Spirit and the deeper awareness of the inter connectivity of all life. Civilization has further eroded men’s intimate association with the natural world, and instead, earth and all its non-human inhabitants—plant, animal, and mineral—have been viewed solely as resources for the sustenance of…

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Why Did the Tortoise Cross the Road?

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D

The Road

My wife Doreen and I had journeyed across the country from Los Angeles to upstate New York to present a workshop at the Omega Institute about connecting with the spirit world. After our five hour flight and two and a half hour drive, we parked ourselves in the B&B to unload our luggage and rest for a few moments, then hopped in the car and drove the few miles to the nearby town of Rhinebeck. We wanted to gather some supplies for our…
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Coping With Crazy Schedules

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

Doreen and I took our two daughters (Nicole and Catherine), eight-year-old grandson (Jaden), and one of our sons (Grant) for a shopping trip recently. Not that I'm that keen on shopping—I'm good for 20 minutes before I start getting restless, unless I'd brought along a good book to read or find a bookstore nearby.

This time, I figured Grant and I could hang out and catch up on what's going on in each others' lives. Plus there was an Apple store in this particular mall,…
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What Did the Animals Know?: Instinct, Survival, and the Tsunami

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.


Even though in the recent tsunami there was a tremendous loss of human life, many beings survived, both human and animal whether by fortune, circumstances, or innate intelligence. We savor such stories, such as the man that was adrift for days in the ocean, clinging to a floating tree. What also caught my eye were the stories about the animals. Amongst the countless bodies of humans, not one dead animal was found. Most if not all of the animals that were near the coast had…
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The "Power" in Power Animals: How Your Animal Spirit Guide Can Teach, Guide, and Heal You

By Steven D. Farmer Ph.D.

July, 2004

Ravens, Crows, and Messages

I was having lunch outdoors with my wife, Doreen, telling her that I was going to write our publisher and let him know the subject of my next book. I was excited about the proposal and thought that e-mailing him would give him time to think about it. She commented that it would be better to pitch it to him in person, and reminded me that we'd have an opportunity to do so in a couple of weeks.…
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Beltane Blessings

By Steven D. Farmer Ph.D.

May, 2004

Here I am with my wife, Doreen, in Glastonbury, England, a magical, mystical land, where legends and lore abound. We're here for a few days on a break from our tour of the U.K., and also to celebrate her birthday. There's a crystal shop on nearly every corner, vegetarian cafes sprinkled here and there, and other shops filled with artifacts to fulfill various new age tastes. Or should I say old age, as many of the metaphysical arts that are supported and honored…

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Shamanism and the Shamanic Journey

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

January 12, 2003

In the past few years you've undoubtedly heard or read about shamanism, and perhaps have even explored this unique and ancient spiritual discipline to some degree. The word itself (pronounced SHAH-maan) comes from the language of the Tungus people of Siberia, and has become such an integral part of the vocabulary of many of us exploring new age spirituality that the meaning and intent of shamanism and shamanic practice may be diluted and misunderstood.

Often shamanism is associated with Native American practices, and…
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Rhythm for Life and Health

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.


In the Beginning, There Was the Beat


When you came into this life, your first felt experience was the sensation of rhythm. Not the sound, but the sensation of rhythm. Before you could hear, see, or think, you were unadulterated physicality-pure instinctual and primal substance, animated by the spark of life that foretold of a human being. You sensed your being as only slightly distinct from your mother's body, intimately connected to her physical and emotional rhythms, yet very gradually emerging into a sense…
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Animals, Spirit Animals, and Omens

By Steven D. Farmer Ph.D.

July, 2004

I was getting ready to go meet a friend for coffee, feeling a bit wary about the get-together as I had to discuss something unpleasant with him. There was a rumor that he'd made some disparaging remarks about a good friend of mine and I wanted to get the straight scoop from him rather than relying on gossip. I needed to look him in the eye and have a conversation about these allegations, to hear his side of the story. I don't…

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Pismo and the Carpet Cleaner

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

October, 2004

Pismo is a beautiful Colombian Red-Tailed Boa, six years old and about six feet long. I inherited her about three years ago from my daughter, Catherine, as she wasn't able to care for her once she'd moved away from home. I'd already grown quite fond of her by then, and our relationship and mutual respect grew from there.

Snake had already come to me many years prior as an animal spirit guide, so it's no accident that I was given stewardship of…
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Trick or Treat!: Welcoming Our Ancestors for Halloween

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

August 9 , 2003

Halloween conjures up any number of images and associations, including spooks, hobgoblins, jack o’ lanterns, bobbing for apples (for anyone over 35!), and especially children knocking at the door, shouting “trick or treat!” You open the door and there they are, dressed up in costumes, some scary, some amusing, yet all bringing a smile to your face as they hold out their bags for the expected treat. Once they get their goodies, off they go into the night until the next…

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Men, Sex, and Intimacy

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

(From JOURNEYMEN magazine, Spring 1993)

I just talked with my friend Bruce on the telephone and mentioned that the theme of this column was going to be men's sexuality, a topic near and dear to his heart and mine—as well as other parts of our anatomy. Bruce and I agreed that in fact, our hearts were the part of our anatomy that had been much neglected when it came to our sexuality. Most of our focus when it came to sex had been centered on…
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Some simple facts about Anger

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

(excerpted from The Wounded Male by Steven Farmer)  

ANGER IS A FEELING
— There is a difference between feelings and actions. As a man, you have learned to emphasize action over feelings. In order to deal more effectively with your anger, you must separate the emotion of anger from feeling like you have to act it out in any way, on others or on yourself. Although I will give you some ideas on how to focus and discharge your anger, there really is no need…
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Managing Stress in Modern Times

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

We are in an ever-accelerating “hurry up” culture, one in which human beings are required to make remarkable adaptations to increasingly technologically driven lifestyles and consumer-oriented pressures. This spiraling pace requires us to move so quickly that we tend to override and become desensitized to our bodily sensations and our feelings. In this anesthetized state we ironically require more stimulation— bigger, better, newer, louder, faster— just to grab and hold our attention. We become so saturated with excessive stimulation and cumulative tension that we may…

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Four Steps to Healing an Overwhelming Experience

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.


The tragic events of 9/11 instilled in most of us a deep sense of pain, anger, and helplessness, which are the typical symptoms associated with trauma. Whether directly involved in any such event or simply witnessing it, as many of us did over and over again through the media representation, our emotions and our nervous system can become overwhelmed. When this happens, we can become so fixated on these images and feelings we become blocked in our healing and recovery from such traumatic events.
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Compassionate Listening

By Steven D. Farmer, Ph.D.

Too often we think of listening as waiting for the other person to stop talking so we can get our opinion, feelings, or thoughts expressed. Although this is a common habit, with your willingness and steady practice you can develop the very fundamental skill of listening into a true art form, one that conveys compassion for the other. Here I offer three simple steps to work with: Hearing, Absorbing, and Reflecting.

HEARING— Did you ever notice what happens when your attention is drawn to…

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